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Someone out there at this exact moment is doing what they want to do and living the dream, they are living a life that you wish you could live, they are even doing what you love doing; and although they did not have the privileges that you do, they are probably less smarter than you are, had less money than you do, and they did not even have the love and security that you do. But they achieved, they are there, and are living the life that you wish you could. And no, there were not born “rich and privileged” nor were they “lucky”. So you should know that you could actually do more, have more and be more.

“You should know that you could actually do more, have more, and be more”

There should be no more excuses for your own happiness and path in life, there should be no more fear of going out there and facing whatever it is that you want to do, there should be no “being on the safe side” anymore; be fearless – you can do this, and you will do this, you will do anything you set your mind into otherwise they are all excuses that you’re setting for the life that you want to.

Ask yourself, “What is my purpose?” and try finding answers; have a clear purpose, have a clear direction as to where you want to be and you will. Ask yourself “What am I doing right this moment?” are you doing what you really want to? Or are you doing what you think you have to? Take chances, take risks and most importantly be fearless and only then you will realize that nothing and I mean nothing will or can stop you once you put your car on D and just lead the way.

“Are you doing what you want to? or are you doing what you have to?

Wake up every day knowing exactly what your vision is, wake up every day heading towards this clear vision that you set for yourself and you will, you will get there no matter what others tell you, it is your life and once you have this clear vision of how your life should look like and the direction you want it to be, you will start fighting, you will never give up even if odds were in your direction, you will wake up everyday with this energy that you have never seen before, the weakness and lack of energy that you think you have today will diminish because be sure that your great asset is your mental ability and not your physical ability as a famous person once said, your mental ability is what you will need regardless of circumstances.

 

Believe in yourself, never doubt yourself when life gets tough, or when challenges worsen – cause they will, but never doubt your ability to succeed. Never doubt what it was that made you want to change your life in the first place. It is your mind and only your mind that could make you rise to the top, or could make you fall.

“Never doubt what was that made you want to change your life in the first place”

So believe in you and listen to you. Lead the direction that you want, control your mind and your mental ability to succeed and reach your goals regardless of what people think, regardless of your circumstance and regardless of society’s definition of success. Ask any elderly person about their regrets and the first thing they will say is that they did not do and fight for what they truly wanted to do, they will tell you they regret ever listening to those around them, they will tell you that they wish they could turn back time and DO what they truly wanted to do– don’t be that person.

Start thinking today of what is it that you really want to do, and where you really want to be and truly believe in yourself that you can and will succeed. 

Elimination

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We are highly impacted by people in our lives, people who we spend the most time with, and people who just simply exist within our circle. Our conscious and unconscious minds and our bodies are highly impacted by those around us; Our friends, family, co-workers, and business partners – could be anyone.

The impact we have by those within our circle could be a positive impact, or could be a highly negative impact that sometimes we fail to see, blame ourselves, or blame external forces when in reality those negative effects are striking right from those close to us that we just simply prefer not believing because of the overwhelming impact it might cause us if we do so, so first thing we do is blame ourselves or external forces.

 

For example: let’s say you were going to a party, got ready, and got dressed. A close friend of yours comes over to pick you up and says, “You look like you’ve gained weight”. There are two possible conclusions that your mind is telling you to think: Either that friend genuinely cares for you and sees that you have gained weight and was just informing you in order for you to try to get that back on track again, or that that person just simply wants to feed you off of their insecurities. You go scale yourself and see that your weight remains the same or you might even lost some. – You can here draw your own conclusions.

 

Some people bring out the best in us while others strive in bringing us down. Some that we even think are in our lives for the right reasons turn out to be those wishing and wanting what’s best for them excluding our own feelings.

Do we truly know these people who exist amongst us? Do we really know their intentions towards us? Can we really call them out on wanting to harm us? It is a tough call for sure. But that doesn’t mean we ignore the fact that some people could be impacting our lives negatively and fail to determine that we need instant life-changing decisions to be made in order to better our existence and life in general.

What’s even more frustrating is that do we really give them the benefit of the doubt? How many times do we do that? Do we know when enough is enough? Sometimes our judgments could lead to unnecessary roadblocks, but it is essential in keeping an eye open and never doubting what your gut feeling is telling you to do. So start asking yourself “How many times do I give someone the benefit of the doubt?” once, twice, three-times?

Try your best in answering the question of how much time do you need to suffer in order for you to eliminate them completely out of your life? How many times you need to give that person the benefit of the doubt?

The main challenge in all of this is trying to identify people’s intentions around you and how to deal with each and every one of them accordingly. This may be tough, but it is only going to help increase your chances of eliminating who’s causing you to live a negative lifestyle and starting a positive path in life.

You need to answer the following questions:

Who empowers you?

  • Who always strives to motivate you to move forward?
  • Who always wants to see you succeed?
  • Who always has something positive to share rather than constantly focusing on the negatives in any given situation?

Who puts you down?

  • Who never supports you on any decisions you want to take?
  • Who always has something negative to share about your life or decisions you make?
  • Who constantly focuses and sees the negatives rather than the positives?

It took me a while to answer those questions but as soon as I did, I knew I had big decisions to make. I knew how painful it was going to be to let people go, but I did not doubt for a second that I was going to have inner peace and nothing but empowerment from those who bring out the best in me.

Justifications regarding keeping those who bring us down in your life shouldn’t be made, because they will only be made based on emotions, and in order to find your inner peace you should deal very carefully with emotions and start thinking with your head. You should never settle for less than what truly makes you happy.

Once you pinpoint those who constantly bring you down, it becomes easy to distant yourself from them and start appreciating those who empower you to be the best.        You should never make excuses for those who bring you down; it is irrelevant thinking of how long you may have known these people because only then you are giving more excuses for yourself to settle for less than what you truly deserve, and giving them more chances to put you down every chance they get. And you do not deserve that.

Always believe in yourself, listen to what your mind is telling you not your heart. Because once you do, you are going to be in total control of your life, it is going to be your sole responsibility to build a true sense of self with those you are surrounded by who support and want nothing but see you succeed in life.

It is your responsibility to trust yourself and the decisions you make starting this point on, because believe it or not this will be a step closer in finding your direction and a sense of self, a place that I am sure every single one of us strives to reach each and every day. But if you truly want to reach this happy state of mind, you need to start looking around you, open your eyes, listen to that inner voice and start making tough calls.

Make tough decisions so that your future self will thank you for.

 

Are you lonely? I don’t think so. Here is why

Ever woke up one day and felt empty? Felt like you are lonely although you have everything you need/want around you? It is ok. We all did at one point in our lives and it is not the end of the world. This feeling will go away. It will disappear, but its only normal that sometimes it gets to us and makes us so sad and frustrated not knowing what to do in order to reduce this feeling. Or make it go away.

Now let me just tell you why you are NOT alone. Sometimes we get overwhelmed by all good things around us. When we are too happy and comfortable with our current situation our unconscious mind cannot help but say “wow wow hold on a second, why am I that happy? Let me just think and take all that in” so we tend to shift towards a dark place for a moment till our brain mentally processes all those overwhelming feelings of happiness we are having. Take it as a hibernating process of our brains mentally adapting to those feelings and emotions, and as soon as your brain take in and processes all this, you are back to normal and the feeling of loneliness will go away. The key is: Patience.

We tend to think that being lonely is just as equal as being sad. But that’s just a very false statement. The happiest people on earth do get lonely too. Its not about whether or not you are a sad/depressed person therefor you get lonely, no. Everyone gets lonely and I mean EVERYONE. Do not over think your situation and try to ask your self so many questions on why do you feel that way. As I said before let your brain have a break and take in your emotions. Whether it’s a sudden change of mood, a break up, a fight with someone you had, it could be anything, you can even be returning from an awesome birthday bash you just had and a sudden feeling of loneliness comes your way. Really do not over think it, do not try to “justify” this feeling. Just be patient and let everything sink in for a while. We tend to over think sometimes and let me tell you this, over thinking leads to anxiety and anxiety leads to depression, then you are going to be digging this deep hole of sadness and a dark world you don’t want to get into.

You must be careful, although it is normal to feel lonely or isolated from time to time, too much loneliness can be unhealthy or even dangerous. Studies have shown that excessive feelings of loneliness can cause depression, high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart problems. The good news is, loneliness is a condition that can be fought against and overcome! Here are few things to do when you feel lonely that will make you feel better, and let your mind of off thoughts:

 

  1. Talk to someone:Gossips

Sometimes all you need is talking to someone; try to avoid talking about your current state of mind, instead focus on the positive, try to catch up or talk about a new movie or a book. This will keep your mind off of things and maybe have a few laughs.

 

 

 

  1. Get a pet:sadness

Believe or not, getting a pet can be the best thing you do, especially those who experience this feeling a lot. Get a cat, dog, bird or even a fish! Charles M. Schulz, the creator of Peanuts, once remarked in one of his comic strips, “Happiness is a warm puppy.” Studies indicate that simply petting an animal reduces blood pressure, anxiety, and may actually be an effective non-medical treatment for certain forms of depression.

 

 

 

  1. Ask yourself what’s missing? Or what’s causing you to feel lonely:Trying to make a decision

You should ask yourself, am I like that since a long while now? Am I experiences this feeling although I have everyone around me? Do I always prefer to be alone? If the answer is yes, then its time to consider a positive affirmative action. Try calling friends and ask them to meet up, go out on family dinners or contact someone you haven’t seen in a while, even if they can’t make it or they were busy, at least you are taking action to change your state of mind.

 

 

 

  1. Get off of Facebook/Twitter:no-social-media

Social Media is the worst way to spend your time on, especially when you are feeling lonely. Too much of social media can lead to not moving and socializing, instead just being trapped in your bedroom and typing all day. Call up some friends and let them come over, have a good talk and laugh!

 

 

 

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If you aren’t in the mood of leaving your coach, at least try & watch some series! Get into it and you will see how to day flies by even faster! It will make you forget your current state!

How to get ready for 2015

” For last year’s words belong to last year’s language, and next year’s words await another voice” – T.S Elliot

 

We look back at what we’ve hoped to change, what actually did change and what we still need to work harder on changing. Do not look back at what you couldn’t achieve or hoped to achieve for 2014 just look forward for working harder on achieving whatever you couldn’t, try to come up with creative ways in motivating yourself so you could effectively achieve your desired resolutions for 2015. Circumstances do occur and plans always change but never give up trying, try to come up with new ideas on how can you actually achieve those goals and your resolutions for next year.

You could go on and on saying you wanna change this, you wanna change that, but how are you going to remember them all? How are you going to follow up and/or even start to do so?

Well here are some ways that I’ve used in previous years that helped me in achieving some of my resolutions in fun and memorable ways! These tips will motivate you to achieve your desired goals for 2015:

  •  A Vision Board:

SAMSUNG CSCI know many people create vision boards for their dreams and goals for their entire existence, but I say why not make a new vision board every year? Its fun! And you might have new goals every year! Even every month! Vision boards are a great way for always reminding yourself of what do you want to achieve for the year.

Cut out pictures from the internet or from a magazine and just place them all together in a frame as a collage, also make sure to place it in a place that is always visible to you, above your bed, in your office, kitchen even in your living room! Just make sure it’s in a visible place. Here is my vision board for last year – it was in my office all year around.

 

Screen shot 2014-12-27 at 8.49.36 PMScreen shot 2014-12-27 at 8.54.37 PMThis website is AWESOME! You log in, create your own private page with your desired goals and due dates of when you would like to achieve them, you can also post pictures of what you’ve achieved! It’s a great way to organize everything in one place! And if you’re lost in what exactly do you want to achieve they have so many ideas and suggestions you can use as well.

Here is a picture of my profile on there!

 

 

 

  •  Post-it Notes:

stock-photo-50051120-new-year-resolutions-post-it-notesPost-it Notes are always a fun way in reminding yourself of your goals. If your resolution is to start on a healthy life style, put your post-it notes on the fridge saying “Eat Healthy” you can even come up with creative funny reminders as you wish for whichever desired goals all around your house!

 

 

  •  Photos on your Calendar:

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  •  Lift App:

liftpic-e1346279643527This App is my all-time favorite App. It facilitates everything for you, your goals, when would you like to achieve them and even talking to someone who can actually COACH YOU personally on how to achieve your goal! This App is a must for everyone!

Check out an article on forbes to learn more about Lift. http://www.forbes.com/sites/limyunghui/2012/08/30/lift-app-is-probably-the-cheapest-self-help-product-ever-created/

Just remember to have fun and enjoy writing and thinking of your desired resolutions for 2015, some you will achieve and some you wont. Do not feel stressed out to do everything at once, take your time, set due dates and just enjoy!

Happy New Year Everyone!! xoxo

Easy indoor activities to break your Routine

“You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine” – John C.Maxwell

 

 

Ever felt like you are just sick of your daily routine? Bored? But you do not feel like going out with friends? You are in need of change but you do not know what to do?

Here are some tips that are timeless and CHEAP that you can do indoors to instantly feel happy and break your routine:

  • Re-position your room/house furnitureScreen-Shot-2013-12-09-at-4.29.55-PM

Change up your room furniture locations, go ahead and change up everything, your bed location, your vanity and all, relocate everything in different areas in your room. You will feel that you are living in a new place that will actually make you feel much better without spending a dime.

 

 

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One of the things I love doing is decorating my house; you can go to a close by store and purchase decorations according to the season you’re in. Lets say its Valentines Day season, go ahead and buy red and pink decorations such as fake flowers or random decorative mirrors or teddy bears. Changing your decoration Valentines-Day-Decorations-For-A-Partyaccording to which event or season you are celebrating will instantly make everything feel new and fresh!

 

 

 

 

  • Burn candlesbath-and-body-works-bakeshop-candles-12

Who said candles are only for birthdays? Go ahead buy yourself some awesome scented candles and burn them. Your living area will immediately turn into this heavenly-scented smell, which could be exactly what you needed to feel change. Recommended store: Bath and Body Works Candles.

 

 

  • Online window shoppingE-commerce concept

You don’t really need to buy anything! Thanks for the advanced technology we have; there is always a “wish-list” section in all web sites. You can check what’s new on fashion/technology websites and add them to your wish list for later purchase. Recommended stores: Asos, Boohoo, Amazon, Net-a-Porter, Pixie Market, & Bonadrag.

 

 

  • Bubble bathshop

Bubble baths will instantly make you feel better, do not forgot the bubbles! They are essential here. Recommended store: Lush.

 

 

 

  • Read (even if you hate reading!)Pros-and-Cons-of-Audio-Books1-606x380

I know reading could be quite boring to non-readers, but how about you try audio books? Audio books are for those who get bored after reading few pages so audio books are a great way to break your routine and it’s very easy to access and download on your phone! Recommended Apps: Audiobooks Premium.

 

 

 

  • Bake!baking

Even if you do not really know how to bake! Thanks to YouTube there are so many tutorials on easy to bake food, and you’ll also do yourself a favor by learning something new! And for those who already know how to bake you can bake something you haven’t already baked before. Recommended Youtube channels: JoyOfBaking, BakingWithNadia & RosannaPansino.

 

 

  • Use a face maskwoman-wearing-facial-mask-with-cucumbers

Face masks are a great way to break a routine, Even if you do not have any you can easily make one yourself. Just cut few cucumbers, place them on your eyes put some Buddha bar music and relax!

Watch these for easy DIY’s: JuicyStar, Nicole, & PromisePhan.

 

 

  • Create a photo album6a00d83451ac6369e2017d3bc3abf9970c

Go through your old pictures, print, and put them in an album if you haven’t already done that! We have so many Instagram pictures and selfies that don’t have any value. Look up old pictures or pictures, print them, and put them in a photo album or a journal

 

 

 

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  • Skype with a friend or a family member who lives abroad

Catching up with old friends or family is a great way to entertain yourself and break your routine! Sit down, make yourself a hot cup of tea and catch up with someone you miss.

 

 

 

Tell me how do you entertain yourself indoors when you need a change and a routine-break?

Humiliation is Bullying

 

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I was 14 years old when I consider myself being humiliated by a so-called “respected” figure in society, the dean of my school.

 

It was on a Tuesday morning where all students gathered up at 7 a.m. for a mini morning workout before going to classes. Like any other day I stood along with my classmates waiting to get this 5 minute routine done and head to class; when all of a sudden the dean comes out bursting at everyone pissed off and just yelling “Today non of you will go back to classes before you’re checked from head to toe” I was sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. She continued saying “Some of you smell disgusting, some of you aren’t even wearing socks, and some of you has a full makeup on” “I’ll be passing by each one of you girls, and the girls who are smelly, without socks or with full makeup on will be coming forward here on the stand, not going to todays classes and will be in line so everyone who walks by the whole will look at you and see how disgusting you are”. Standing there in shock, I was furious. How could someone with such a position in society be so cruel? Couldn’t she just advice those who smell bad, without “socks” or those with full makeup instead of humiliating them in front of everyone?

As she starts passing by each one of us, she looks at me and yells “YOU, GET IN FRONT WITH ALL THE OTHER LADIES” “But why? What is wrong with me?” I said. She made it clear that it’s because I wasn’t wearing socks and that she felt it was disgusting. I continued “But I am wearing Ballerina’s I am supposed to wear them with no socks on”. She basically did not care, and I was humiliated in front of my friends as well as the whole school for not wearing socks! I stood in “The line” on the stage, in front of the whole school along with some other girls who she picked out for either smelling bad which is EXTREMELY humiliating or girls with no socks on and those with makeup! I remember staying on this so called Humiliating stage for over 4 hours straight, I felt numb, trying to understand how did she want me to wear socks when I am wearing my Ballerina’s? Is she living under a rock? Or was she just trying to humiliate us? Those who smelled bad, how were they feeling? Couldn’t she just talk to them and advise them rather than this Abu-Ghraib approach? I remember going back home, crying from the humiliation she caused me in front of everyone, some were even laughing at us! WE WERE 14 years old for god’s sake!

Who would do such a thing? How could such a responsible person, a person who some would consider a parent, a person who is a respected figure in society would do such a thing? Is Humiliation bullying? I stayed days and days trying to answer this question, trying to assess the meaning of education in my school’s culture and values, and their approach of worldwide anti-bullying phenomena.

One of the most powerful, life-changing emotions children learn to feel is shame. 10 years later, here I am writing this article about my story of humiliation, I was lucky enough to have both my parents on my side, giving me a hug and telling me to never let Bullies let me down.

14 year olds do make mistakes, they break school rules and some act in a disrespectful manner towards teachers but public shaming them in front of everyone should never be acceptable, and it should never be something any child should experience. The role of teachers is set in a powerful social context, where values of mutual respect, trust and understanding are reinforced through effective school policies, rules, and supportive and respectful behaviors not by public shaming them; If such a social derision becomes persuasive, it can become so painful that some students seriously contemplate taking their own lives, develop an extreme fear of going to school, or becoming themselves bullies in the future.

Schools should root their policies and disciplinary issues in a core ethical manner in which mutual respect and understanding flows. Where the disciplinary issues are dealt with openly and honestly so that students themselves agree to change whatever behavior caused this tension to arise. There are so many school-based programs that schools can adopt in order for changing their organization’s culture and values to the best, one is called The Caring School Community, which features a classroom environment which engages students in conversations about fairness, their opinions on what needs to be improved in their school as well as building positive relationships of respect and understanding towards each other as well as which their teachers.

“We all get humiliated at some point or another during our lives. The trick is not to let it make you resentful and defeatist” – Jane Stanton

How to Stay Positive

 

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Ever woke up one lazy Sunday morning feeling that the whole world is against you? Feeling that the glass is half empty?

Well, lets face it we’ve all had that “life sucks” moment, the challenge is to try your best to stay positive, not only through hard time but also in your day-to-day life!

Here are some tips to help you out:

  1. Take time off – Relax!

A hot cup of tea and a warm bath could actually be exactly what you need, nowadays life has became so busy that there is no time for “Me”, there is no time to just relax and take time off cause all we think about is work, money and more work! Work and money are important but so is relaxation.

 

Go to a salon – Get a massage:

Try the Swedish massage therapy – it relaxes the entire body muscles, a study conducted by the National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine, and published in The New York Times, found that clients who received a 45-minute Swedish massage experienced significant decreases in levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

 

Make your self a cup of warm tea and watch a movie:

Believe it or not, a warm cup of tea is a great way for anti-stress techniques; there are several herbs that I recommend you try that will give you a sedative effect you need during times of hardship.

Try chamomile tea – it help reduces stress and anxiety levels, it also helps relieve insomnia and encourage a good night’s sleep.

Kava root – it helps offsetting a number of problems, such as stress, anxiety and nervousness.

Also lying down and watching your favorite movie is another way for taking the “off” time that you need.

 

Bubble bath:

Head to the bathtub, light cup those candles and relax, read your favorite book and just take the time you need. A nice warm bubble bath is a “budget-friendly” way to minimize your issues and gives you a little bit of boost of positivity and happiness!

 

  1. Surround yourself with positive people:

We are surrounded by a variety of people in our daily life, some of those people are those who motivate, help and brighten up our day, and some are exactly the opposite, they put us down, drain us with negative vibes and contently bullying us emotionally. We often pick the same energy given to us by these people who are in our daily lives. The 3 main questions you need to ask are:

Who are the 5 most negative people I know?

Why do I need them in my life?

Can I avoid them? (FOREVER)

Consider the answers. Then consider how you can start spending less time with them, and how to start building your surroundings with the positives!

 

  1. Do not assume it’s the “End-of-the-World”:

What happened to you happened to at least 50 other people from all around the globe, you are not the only one suffering from this situation, what you need to do is to understand the root of your struggle, can you fix it? Can you redirect yourself to the better? Can you forget? And move forward?

You need to ask yourself to “STOP” shout it, very loudly, and tell yourself “HELL NO I wont go thru that path again” because sometimes saying things out loud can make your mind and soul believe it and start moving forward.

 

4.   Listen to those who care:

An advice from those close to you, those who care for you is very essential and in times of hardships could be beneficial, do not push those who care for you away, listen to them and take their advice to the heart, they are the ones taking the time off and directing you to push forward.

 

  1. Do not give up – stay focus:

Try to avoid people who tell you “it’s not a big deal” or “get over it”, your situation is yours and no one else’s, for you to move forward you need to stay focus and deal with your situation, keep your head up and try to find solutions to your problem instead of giving in and losing it all, remember that if you did not deal with it, it will haunt you down to your grave. So take the time you need to figure it out and remember, “it’s better late than never” especially when dealing with your own personal issues. The physical and mental joy you will get after dealing with your issue is gong to take tons of things off of your chest and help you move forward positively.