If i wanted to describe myself i’d say i am a very optimistic and a positive gal. Ever since i was young i’ve always looked at the glass half full (With the exception of math tests – Of course) however i’ve encountered a bunch of people along the way who always always looked at the glass half empty. Now let me tell you this, although looking at some situations with a “glass half empty” mind set doesn’t necessary mean that that person is negative, for me, they are. I find it so uncomfortable sitting with a person who’s always negative and complaining about life, i mean lets face it, we all have the “down moments” in our lives, but talking about them and letting people in all the time about them, is gonna eventually make you seem like a very sad, negative person. So I’ve made a decision and oh-my! Was it the best decision i’ve ever done. I finally got rid of all those who are negative and feeding me off of their sad negative outlook on life. The more you surround yourself with those negative people the more you’re actually going to feel the same exact way they do.
2. Eliminating people with no goals or objectives:
Now, while some of us do have ambitions and goals in life, we know exactly what we want for our future or hope to be one day, some people do-not! Those living by the motto “Lets take it day-by-day” kind of people do irritate me. Let me tell you why, those living their lives as a day-by-day basis are too afraid for planning their future, they assume that by planning their future things aren’t going to turn out the way they planned, and they do rely heavily on luck. I am not suggesting that whatever you plan for in the future will indeed turn out exactly the way you want but knowing exactly what you want or at least hope to achieve will get you there and NOT by luck but by hard work and ambition to reach those goals you’ve set. I’ve met some people here in Switzerland who did not go to collage nor even finished high school and by the age of 24 years old they are finally realizing that being lazy and not wanting to work hard has indeed led them to flipping burgers at McDonalds, just cause they lived by “living day-by-day” motto. We are in the 21st century where competition is fierce and relying heavily on luck won’t and i mean it WON’T get you anywhere. So i’ve decided to get rid of those with no ambitions in life, they will just keep feeding you with non sense about your own decisions and probably even tell you “Don’t stress out about the future” oh-no hunny i do wanna stress out for the future, and it’s called having ambitions and planning not stress.
Living as a student abroad is indeed stressful, i mean you left your home, family and friends to get a degree abroad. But there are limits to everything, those who have reached the age of 24 years old and still partying, and by partying i mean P.A.R.T.Y.I.N.G on a weekly basis, all they do and talk about on Monday’s is to “Where the next party is gonna happen” those in my eyes are extremely ambition-less. At least from my own experience and observation. If you are not a party person, then you have no friends, Or if you have reached the age where partying is so 5 years ago, you still have no friends. Thats just ridiculous, and no i don’t wanna be with the cool-kids no more, Thank you very much.
Do you really think that Steve Jobs or Bill Gates partied each and every week? No, they didn’t, and therefor they were successful.
Now, lets face it, some of us do wake up early, but not me. I will admit it, i love sleeping, i mean who doesn’t right? but again sleeping till 11-12 in the noon just wasn’t right, and it only got worst as i got older, staying up at night, reading books, watching movies and of course YouTube just to avoid going to bed has led to sleep inertia, the feeling of extreme disorientation or grogginess after waking. Although it was extremely difficult to change that at first but as soon as i got the hang of it, it changed my life, it turned my life upside down – in a positive way i mean.
What i did was changing my alarm ringtone to LOUD and by alarm ringtone i mean that ringtone that sounds like a fire alarm, that freaks you out and wakes up extremely mad wanting to hit your phone in the wall – yea that one!
another method i used was to set my alarm one hour to 30minutes before, knowing that “Snooze” is my best friend, this really helps, and you will get the same doze of Snooze you needed to wake up. And finally, As soon as it hit 7 a.m with no turning back i’d head to the bathroom immediately and then make my bed before having my morning coffee. Do it once, and it will be a routine. Trust me. Unless you are a party-addict of course.
I’ve read an article once that said:
“You did this but “should’ve” done that. Years spent in a certain relationship, career, addiction, negativity, s****y health, fear – the bottom line is, it is all okay. You cannot really move on until you forgive yourself for being human”
After reading this, it hit me. We all make mistakes, We all wish that we’ve done something differently, and in order for you to feel happy from within try to forgive yourself, try to embrace your mistakes into experiences rather than regrets.
Whatever you want to do, whatever you feel is your passion. Just do it, start by actually doing it. Do not wait to get approval or acceptance from others. whether or not its going to work, try.
whether or not its the right moment for it, try.
The only thing you are going to regret, is actually not trying and not starting. Do not let others tell you its not a good idea or its not a good time to do it. Just start and you’ll get the hang of it. A professor once told me, it all starts with an idea. So if you have it in you, then why not start applying it.
Now, about forgiveness I’ve written a whole article about that. Botton line is try to forgive others, it is in our best interest to forgive. Get rid of the grudges you have for others and let go.